Edeson Online Newspaper: RARE CULTURE: In Some Niger Delta States, Women Marry Women

Wednesday, October 17, 2018

RARE CULTURE: In Some Niger Delta States, Women Marry Women

Do women marry women in Nigeria or not? Some people have demanded. And an answer or a semblance of an answer would be provided. Although it may not be a common practice in this dispensation, it sure happens -and for this research- in the far southern town of Okrika in modern-day River state. One must not lose sight of the culture of the Okrika people from many years ago as regards marriage. Marriage for the south southern Nigerians (at least back in the days) is not complete without children. Hence, marriage was to the people a union with the primary aim of procreating. This background is vital to understand the context of woman-woman marriages in Nigeria in this modern era.

Several people might find it very hard to believe but once upon a time and up till now, women pay other women’s dowries and sometimes take them under

their roofs. Although, people get defensive as to what happens when the women are alone.

The essence of these marriages is to procreate children for the woman paying the dowry. It is expected that women whose dowries are paid by other women have children who will bear the surname of the dowry payer. The rationale behind this is simple. Among the Okrikas and many other people of the world, women in heterosexual marriages are expected to change their names after marriage and adopt the names of their husbands.

“We have a reason for it.” An Okrika native, Miebaka Fiberesima says. “It’s done to continue a family name. If the wife does not have male children, she can also marry a wife with the hope of having male children to carry on her husband’s family name.

“She can also do that if her family has no male child and the children from the marriage will carry her family’s name” Carrying on with family name and legacies is very important to the people. Due to this, couples who have only daughters would not have children to carry on their names. Woman-woman marriages offer a solution to that. It provides an opportunity for women to bear children that will carry their names as surnames and be of their parent’s family. What this marriage does is, it saves the family’s name of the other dowry-payer.

Women who pay other women dowries can also do that while married to men. Women whose dowries are paid by women are not looked at less than women whose dowries had been paid by men. These women are looked at as normal. Although many of the women whose dowries are paid by other women in these contemporary times have happened to have been single mothers before the payment of their dowries, years ago, younger single girls get into the women-women marriages and even have their first child from the marriage.
The information in this article had been vetted by a few indigenous Okrika people.

GUYS, WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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Uwax Lazarus

There is very much different, the husband of the woman who married the other woman impregnate her not the woman, she is only trying to protect her lineage not for the purpose of committing lesbianism....bad journalism

Adinuba Simeon

Likewise in my town, Nnewi. But the women never engage in any canal behaviour with each other as the LGBT movement would want us to accept.

Daniel Orji

i had of one recently in ebonyi staste, though it was for the pupose of retaining lineage, but all thesame it should be abolished, at the end of the day, the children belong to the man(the woman husband) he should be one to bother about linege protection, not a woman!

Justtiin Uzor

Sure it happens every where even in Igbo land

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Ejiofor Ifeoma

Like seriously

Daniel Orji

endy, i didnt see this picture before, this is a legalized lesbianism, and should be condemn!
the one i mentiond happend in ebonyi, the woman married another woman and gave her to her husband to rais a male child for her!